We spend so much time focusing on the little ones (I know that I do at least!) that sometimes we forget the bigs.
A little background. I had a very bad week. On Monday I made a series of bad choices, getting myself into an argument that turned ugly and triggering. Before I knew it, I was having a panic attack and freaking out in a public place. And when I finally got home and had my nightly call with my caregiver/mother, I was so messed up that I lied and didn't even mention it to her. I eventually came clean to her the next day, but the damage was done. She took drastic measures and grounded me, cutting off my social media connections until today. It was the right call, giving me time to reflect and think about my actions.
I knew she had done the right thing, but she didn't. She wasn't sure if it was OK to do this to me. After all, I'm an adult and what right does she have to discipline me?
So, tonight we debriefed and discussed the week and I assured her that she acted correctly. And that I needed her to do this for me. She was still uncertain, so I reminded out that I had consented to this, that I had asked her to serve in this role, that I needed her to be there.
I think that we think so much about what littles need, that we forget that our caregivers need the reassurance that they are doing the right thing too. Nurturing discipline is a team effort.