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Being told "no"

I really, really, really don’t like being told “no”.

I don’t like being told what to do, or what not to do, either.

How the hell did I end up in the type of relationship I’m in, then?

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Lissa's picture

Carolyn, I don't know if you want people budding in here but I just wanted to say that I find that really hard too. About 60% of me wants the warm and thrilled feelings I get when Daddy is firm with me about important stuff, but 40 of me sometimes doesn't find it cute or sexy or anything when I rilly want something (like I mean my big really does even) and am told I can't have it or do it or whatever. Sometimes I'm mad to him. I don't like feeling mad to him. What do you do to feel okay about it?

Carolyn Faulkner's picture

Hi, Lissa!!  <waving>

I absolutely want people to comment and discuss what I post!  That's what this place is about, so don't hesitate!

And I'm with you about the percentages - those are just about right for me, too.

What do I do about it?  I go ahead and be mad (Daddy can confirm this, unfortunately for him).  It doesn't generally last very long.  I don't like being mad at him, and I really hate it when he's mad at me.  I have issues about anger in that I never used to express it.  Daddy's helped me a lot with that (and so many other things, too), most importantly the fact that my being angry doesn't mean that he's going to leave.

So, when I feel it - which is pretty rare, I think - I kind of indulge in it a bit, because I really wasn't allowed to express my anger as a child.  

But like I said, I can't stay mad at him for very long.  And I never yell - but I am an expert pouter!