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Joanne_chan: Off for a week outdoors if not bein blown away literally by Storm Dennis. see you all soon.1 day 16 hours ago
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Chris_minor: Not gonna be aroudn much having a bad csa ptsd time shaking, crying an just feelin broken. bye.3 weeks 1 day ago
Laura Anne: Thanks, UB! We really really really appreciate all you do and the difference you make in our lives!3 weeks 2 days ago
Mr. UB Faulkner: We're working on adding more playful areas, just started with the framework to post writings, 'cause, well, we're both writers. The Northern Loompas are working on a playground right this minute! :)3 weeks 3 days ago
Laura Anne: Auntie Red, that would be amazing! I would be happy to volunteer as an assistant (I bet Jo would help as well)1 month 2 days ago
Auntie Red: I volunteer as occasional playground monitor! :)1 month 3 days ago
As hard as it is for us to talk about what we need, I don't want to lose sight of my key point: we need to use our polite words (please and thank you) and show appreciation to the people who give something of themselves to us. It's emotionally exhausting to be a care giver and after they have worked so hard to figure out the stuff that even we don't get, they need an emotional recharge.
This is sometimes difficult having had it with my caregiver, sometimes being a little to forgiving and finding it hard to judge where it's the case I knew and could of done better in that situation but chose not to and when genuinely I was well out of it and really just needed pulling away a bit like the other person was saying really.
Just getting to the point we can have a emotionally honest conversation about what we want them to do to/for us can sometimes seem hard going, like I remember the time I asked to taken to one side for a spanking or to sit out an activity we were all do do instead (if it of been arkward to done anything on the spot).
I can understand that as I used to get into arguments that I felt I had to continue with until I go the last word or going 180 degrees round and just freezing over as they got more and more into a rant that my emotions were blurred mess.
I find it easier now people do feel more entitled to step in more and quickly although it can be hard to get someone to assume the parental place when you badly need it at the beginning as they think you know what to do and will do it. I can't speak for you but often don't not helped by being traumatized by various stuff in my past that means peopel can easily trigger me apart from having huge trust issues which si what happened last week..
Anyway I do agree with you and we do need to be prepared to work with our Caregivers nurturing discipline.