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    This space within the Woodshed is where the times I have been taken aside for a spanking to be put whither it happened on the Island or in other places to be written up with when and what happened.

    Every spanking written up was agreed by my 'Big' and the person who spanked me with no coercion.

    As a disabled innerkid, I have the right to be treated like any other innerkid and that includes being disciplined and not excused for anything.

    It is to help innerkid me own my correction, learn to respect myself and others and own up to what I have done or failed to do so I learn from my mistakes as a girl who is good but when does things wrong, needs to.

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    Sept 1 2016
    Today I was spanked twelve times with the wooden hairbrush across my underwear by my caregiver for waking up early in the morning and using my computer when I was meant to sleeping.
    It has been about eighteen months since I last did this after a period of being up night after night to past three AM and I was spanked to ensure I don't start a repeat of what left me unable to perform my chores because I was so tired which are part of my home responsibilities.

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    If i comment,,if not i will delee n ya can lock thread so ya just can write..so please if ya dont want comments please its ok n let me know. I jus wanna sit n put my arm round ya n let ya know i like ya lots n proud of ya kinna that ya taken responsibility n faced what ya faced n hope you aint hurting too much . I know sleep beez very important to ours health. I glad you has someone helpin ya to be good to yourself n staying healthy. With love, Katiemay

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    July 5th 2016

    I have had a few this year that I intend to place here because had of started this thread then, they sure would of and they are for things I have learned from so they belong here.

    * my next but last spanking*

    July 5th 2016


    Today I was spanked twelve times by hand on the bare firmly.
    I was away with a Growd Up friend who does discipline me by agreement and it happened that a hot drink had been made  and in a rush to go sit with it,  I wasn't paying attention and I spilled some over my shoes and it also went less than an inch from my partly bared legs with having just below the knee socks on.


    I thought nothing of it thinking, about getting a cloth maybe at some point to mop it up when I was told after I'd put my cup down I was to spanked straightaway and so was taken to a chair where I was put over.


    At no point in my life had anyone ever said anything about spilling hot liquids, just thinking it couldn't be helped so it was the last thing I was expecting.


    Now why did I get spanked for it?: Because by not paying attention I was capable of, I did not merely make a mess, I was at serious risk of scolding myself badly possibly requiring treatment and it was to impress on me the need to think about what I'm doing and to keep myself safe.


    It was the first time ever I got spanked for anything like this and I'm grateful my friend cared enough to make it happen.

     

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    Thank you for sharing.  I like this idea and will try to write up one of my own.

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    April 27 2016 "Paying no attention? We'll see about that..."

    April 27th 2016
    Today I was spanked for lack of attentiveness by one of people who look after me by permission.
    First of all I was put over their lap and spanked over my dress, then I was spanked on my underwear and then on the bare. I think it most of been for about ten minutes and then I had do  corner time.
    We were talking about  things and I really wasn't terribly interested  although I know I should show my respect to her and so wasn't really listening and responding  to what she was saying often not answering correctly although I'd heard her clear enough.
    That's why she felt I needed quite a firm spanking because the habit of just switching of and ignoring people who didn't interest me  being disrespectful toward them had been around for a good many years.
    Although that was a very painful spanking, I have began to make much more of an effort to pay proper attention to people talking with me and to be honest this was a spanking I was overdue from being a biokid

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    Thank you for your comments

    Thank you for your comments Laura.

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    January 10 2016

    Jan 10th 2016

    This particular episode was not just the first of the new year but at this point posting it here, probably one of the most important for the many issues involved in what lead up to it going back a long time.


    Today I was spanked twelve times with the leather paddle on the bare firmly.
    I  have a supervised study weekend  where today I  do math. It was meant to start at half nine in the morning but by ten to ten I was still sat there definately staring at the study guide cos it looked hard doing nothing.
    By ten to ten the person supervison who has authority to discipline me called me over for refusing to get started started to tell me off saying if I had a genuine problem, he'd help me.
    He put me over the chair pulling my black gymslip up which was followed a big tug as he pulled my gym knickers right down and proceeded to give me twelve strokes of the leather paddle which really hurt my bottom.
    He proceed to explain this attitude of mine where I say I have a disability that makes doing things hard and then deciding not to even bother with anything requiring perseverance, taking a defiant attitude toward even trying wasn’t helping me manage it and as an adult middle it was time this was put a stop to.
    He told me My disabilities aren’t an excuse for not trying and after a short while I got to work and got 85% on the unit.
    This has been a problem of mine for a long while which stemmed for being encouraged to see  my many genuine disabilities as a reason not to take or do anything I find difficult with many adults only too willing to excuse it.
    What he had to say was very powerful and from now I have to act more grown up and at least attempt do the things everyone else is expected. It also is the case I'll will be punished by those who have authority in my life from now on  when and if I don't to move me forward.
    This may be hard on me but truthfully this should happened years ago.

     

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    I think the most important part of discipline is not whether it hurts or makes a big scene as simply the assertion that the person delivering the discipline makes it clear that they CARE.  I really feel no longing for pain.  What I desire is having someone who says "I'm not going to let you get away with this!" It was no easy growing up to weasel out of a punishment because the grownups around me honestly didn't want the hassle.  So, when my caregiver tells me that they are there for me and that they don't care how much this "inconveniences" them (because it is far more important that I learn how to behave and how to grow up to be a better person), I literally melt.

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    I think the most important part of discipline is not whether it hurts or makes a big scene as simply the assertion that the person delivering the discipline makes it clear that they CARE.  I really feel no longing for pain.  What I desire is having someone who says "I'm not going to let you get away with this!" It was no easy growing up to weasel out of a punishment because the grownups around me honestly didn't want the hassle.  So, when my caregiver tells me that they are there for me and that they don't care how much this "inconveniences" them (because it is far more important that I learn how to behave and how to grow up to be a better person), I literally melt.

    I agree with you laura on what you said .

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    That, Katie and Laura, is the

    That, Katie and Laura, is the biggest thing about it and sometimes overlooked. It is that those people - my Caregiver and select others -  DO care about you enough to say "I'm not going to let you get away with this!" so much so that I freely hug them afterward cos my emotions on being cared for are so melted and the whole experience is emotionally comforting. Their aim is very much on teaching me to behave better and to be more 'grown up' being mature and accepting my responsibilities and so spanking me is the very effective way of getting the message through together with guidance so I replace the attitude or behaviour  that lead to it by something better.

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    November 4 2016

    November 4 2016

    While away I was having a lesson  in measurements and some math revision, I did not pay full attention to it even though I could so I was put over the desk and had my bottom spanked with the Tawse which really stung. I'll try to pay full attention in the future when people are trying to show me things.

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    I like your Corner Jo!

    Hi Jo n Katie n Laura! I've always enjoyed talkin with other kids about the spankins we get. Friday I mooned my teacher through her office window.  I got a hand spanking across her lap on my bare bottom! In front of the whole class!  then I had to stand in the corner with my pants down until the class was dismissed. Finally I got a long, hard switching on the bare! My bottom is still sore!

    I'm lookin forward to hearing about your experiences or thoughts about spanking discipline.  

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    Well, it's kind of dumb to moon a grownup, because that just makes it easier for you to get spanked on your bare bottom!

    Silly!

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    Laura Anne wrote:

    Laura Anne wrote:

    *Giggles*

    Well, it's kind of dumb to moon a grownup, because that just makes it easier for you to get spanked on your bare bottom!

    Silly!

    Agree.That's very much "asking" for it!

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    That's very much "asking" for it!

    Thanks for responding Laura and Jo! smiley At some point as a 'biokid', maybe 3-5 yo, a spanking became a reward as well as a punishment for me. Kids sometimes get mild, affectionate or playfull spankings. 'love pats', then if it's a little more intense and stings they know they did something wrong but still accept it as an act of caring. I think a spanking is a very complicated interaction. That's my 'big' talking. When I do get spanked I'm very much in my 'little' space. devil 

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    Jo's Corner 2016 review
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    While I rest up  having fell down the stairs earlier on in the week, I thought I'd update this entry seeing  we've entered a new year and just talk though a few things that are what this Corner on the Island is all about.

    I suppose the first thing to say was last year was the time I started to talk more about what makes me, me not just on the Island which had helped heeps in learning to accept it but to other people in other places about the impact my disabilities have on me and how the way in which I used to define them did not really explain clearly enough the 'problem'. You see I used to say "My disabilities don't define me" where what I really meant to say was they made me no less of a person, not being treated less favourably BUT with the  functioning abilities and care needs from them more on a par with a Bio-kid, in all honesty rather than trying to equalize things as at adult functioning level, it really made more sense to treat me more as a bio-kid  in an adult wrapper.

    That's how increasingly is how I'm treated from my folks, my  Caregiver and other trusted adults, reducing the myraid of options to a much simplier  choice, setting personal choices to allow for an adult override  for me in certain agreed situations where I would be very much at risk, so I have a very real sense of freedomI can enjoy, I am not in situations that not being able to cope I'd  be stressed out or in danger.  Clear structures, rules coupled with oversight and a real interest being taken in me in my adult/child like playing colouring and even having to study from my Caregiver and others were introduced and are helping me.

    An important part of this age regressed life for me is that I have the same sorts of rules around my habits  such as bedtimes, keeping spaces tidy, am being expcted to take a full part and contribute to things I benefit from which to be honest I didn't have much of in official childhood  that were increasingly enforced in the last year.

    That enforcement for me doesn't just include say scoldings but includes being spanked which is one thing that did happen a number of times last year and given I'm regressed generally speaking in my uniform rather like the picture at the top which is from a commercial site and the model is over the age of majority as indeed I am too. This some might think I'd really hate but to be honest actually I'm glad of it  because it does really help in dealing my attitudes, doesn't leave me feeling awful about myself with gallons of guilt and for once I do know having been spanked, that's it and people won't banish me forever from things I love , just discipline me so I learn from my mistakes. I'm glad of it.

    In a few weeks time I shall be away with a couple of adult friends who are disciplinarians to me, giving me the love and affection I need as my age regressed forever a child self  operating in world where as the adults they will never spare me a spanking I truly need. If I were to get one it will be noted here to help me learn from it.

     

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    January 29, 2017

    I was firmly handspanked  ten times over my underwear on arrival for failing to have my cellphone switched on and responding to two text messages one being about my arrival time and the other checking which railway platform I was on both which caused concern and inconvience  to the person was to meet with me.

    As well, I strapped twelve times on the bare for being cheeky during an English class.

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    Did you learn your lesson?  Seems like you might have gotten off lightly with that first spanking -- not staying in communication usually results in a loss of privileges in our household!

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    Gosh, Laura I think I have as

    Gosh, Laura I think I have as apart from having been told I have to my cellphone on and to reply to messages straightaway or else! I can still feel that spanking. I didn't formally lose priveldges but in practise I wasn't able to use them as I was kept busy doing things for them. 

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    Writing about emotions and stuff

    One thing I have been doing recently has been writing rather more about my emotions and feelings around matters as they occur and also about things from the past as I have a problem in processing them without which I really don't learn and I am finding that is helping me take that in which helps with trying to be more mature and so the place I write a lot of this stuff down ( http://jokittens.blogspot.co.uk/ ) has been renamed  as Joanne's Dorm and reperposed to cover more of that although because sometimes I do have commercial (18+ model) images of spanking on there Google insists that it's marked as 'adult' although there's nothing sexual or gore on it.

    Today's entry covers that change and why it matters so much to me. http://jokittens.blogspot.com/2017/04/welcome-to-my-dorm.html

    I don't normally do much with profiles on any site as to me you set them as you and that is pretty much it with the last thing of any consequence being making my avatar a drawing of traditional schoolgirl as that aligns with me but seeing an extra item appears to be available for things about you, I have decided to make the last item "spankable"  because I am not ashamed of being spanked and people here knowing that when I'm norty I am as my little friends in real life know and respect this.

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    eee i gunna start a trend! I has that on my profile !laugh   "spankable"  sept im toddling n you a middlesmiley

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    It's a nice idea and I may do

    It's a nice idea and I may do the same thing.  But in your mind does it extend into play online?  I can't remember if I ever asked you that question (and if so, how you responded). 

    You know I get spanked in RL and that I also like to write scenes of it online.  Usually the two are unrelated (although I've tried some crossover).

    I guess the question is more about what the relationship between your presence online (here and elsewhere) is to you RL?

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    With me it's  extends more

    With me it's  extends more into  more 'playful' comments here -more schoolyard humour ("If you do that again, Jo you'll be for a 'panking!" - than a written role playing scene unless I'm with somone who is both 'adult' AND who has permission to such as a authority figure with a more disciplinarian side in which instance I'm open to exploring it.

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    Wow. Wow wow wow I hafta read

    Wow. Wow wow wow I hafta read this a BILLION times over again and again because I can relate to EACH and every word everyone wrote - but oh Jo, especially your words about disability and how it doesn't mean we can't do. No hiding behind insecurity. The emotions, the physical fight, the relief a good spanking gives... I have a good friend who understands this and is like my "Unkle" ...I just don't get to see him often as I would like ta. But if I need a spanking, my friend will make it happen as he knows the beautiful bond that grows between friends who strive for discipline together.

    Wow.

    Really.

    *swallows hard an starts ta read again before I go to your blog*

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    And I JUS learned that I

    And I JUS learned that I kinda joined the trend when I said I like spankins in my lil about me box thingie...

    ...but I DO actually liked the ones where I'm in trouble.. I just don't like letting anyone down. But the growth that I make through discipline is a feeling unlike any other I've felt, very very good feelings.

    I fink, if is okay with you Jo, I'm gonna change the thingie ta jus say "spankable" like you.

    How do you all who have that already feel, is it okay for me to put that in, too?

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    I would think it's find to change your box.  Jo started it but I followed her example because I wanted people to know that I'd be ok if a thread I was in involved punishment.  For some folks, that's a trigger so I don't generally assume it's OK.

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    I would agree very mooch with

    I would agree very mooch with Laura: It's very important we don't involve people in something they either don't agree with, which is their choice or for those whose troubled childhoods have spanking as a trigger that we do not trigger them BUT by the same token they also need to respect us and that spanking is a help in our (regressed) lives.

    Linden, thank you so much for your well considered comments regarding spanking and how that fits in with disciplining and training those of us who have disabilities to make the most our ourselves and to learn to fit in better with other people expect and with the right help we can move more toward. That is very point as some of the more in vogue long winded talking ones or just making allowances just do nothing to help us, quite the opposite actually.

    As for that last box "spankable" no problem at all as it's about us being honest with and between ourselves about  that need in our lives especially as it applies on the Island.

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    Jo:  when it comes to punishment, what comes first for you:  the desire to misbehave or the desire to be corrected?

    For me, I think I usually develop a desire to be punished first and then dream up an appropriate misbehavior (I'm thinking of the end and then coming up with the means).  Yet, I feel that I should do the opposite.  Or bettere yet: not do anything consciously and just be myself, suffering correction when I've managed to transgress.  But as for that, I don't think I can manage such innocence!

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    That's an interesting question, Laura, because usually when it is the desire to be punished comes first what we get more into "Funishments" where we do something purposly to get the spanking. There is a actual place for a spanking BEFORE you do something that some people have and I had occassionally had what is called a "maintainance spanking" which is more to relieve the tensions building up in you before you get to the point of acting out. One the otherhand you just might enjoy role playing a situation in which instance you create the situation you know just has to result in you getting that spanking you wanted which I think is a better way of  doing things  compared to the otherway around because at least your mind is focused of inappropriate behaviours.

    Usually with me it is more a question of not doing anything conciously but just arising from day to day living where I have broken a rule or otherwise engaged in risky behaviour kind of liking I've been playing and left stuff all over the floor for people to trip over. It'd found seconds before they put their foot on it and I then end up going over a chair or lap.

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    Well, I'm well familiar with maintenance spankings (I'm due for my weekly one in a few minutes!).  No, I'm thinking of the ones I receive for cause.

    And yes, the remainder are basically "funishments" in the sense that I want them and they are usually in the range of what I was "looking for".  I always think of that line from childhood, "Are you looking for a spanking?" As if we, as children, wanted to be punished.  I don't think I ever did then, but nowadays I would of course answer the question in the affirmative.

    So, I'm thinking more about the alternative (not looking for a spanking, but getting one).The biggest problem with that is that it is hard for me now to misbehave.  I was at a play party last weekend (my first!) and I was absolutely on my very best behavior.  Afterwards, Mom and I talked about that and she pointed out that it would have been hard for me to be punished in front of strangers.  But I think it was actually harder for me to be naughty in front of them.  So, I wonder if that is my real barrier?

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    Yoo can't beat a meet up, Laura. (((Hugs)))

    Maybe because some may "brat" even without being concious of it to be at the centre of attention where you most likely wished to blend into that background and so wouldn't want to act  in way that might even if it was yoor 'Mommy' may of felt uncomfortable spanking you there.

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    Actually, Mom presented me with a greater threat.  She told me, "If you can't behave when we go out, then maybe we won't go out in public again!"

    Some threats are really effective deterrents!

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    Yep, one of the annoying things that Mom is into right now is finding punishments that actually deter bad behavior.  She's fine with giving me "reminder" spankings on the weekends that are really just rewards for a good week.  But when it comes to expressing her displeasure or trying to change a behavior, she's pretty much given up on smacking.

    I rather wish she'd give up and just spank more often, but she's convinced she'll reform me.  And isn't that why we love our caregivers:  that they don't give up on us?

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    Laura do you fink you could talk to your Mom and explain what you just said above?

    I mean, first, Mommies need ta hear when they are doing a good job. They need the reassurance kinda like we do, just in a Mommy/Daddy/etc kinda way.

    But the other thing I thought - Mommies can't read minds (danget). If you are wanting some discipline, more than a maintenance spanking (I hope that makes sense) maybe she don't know you are craving that interaction and therefore isn't thinking about how to fulfill a need her lil girl has?

    Do you work on transparency with your Mom?

    I have earned a spanking from my Unkle an it's gonna be a serious one. I bin forgetting my meds and not doing well as a result.

    *hangs head low*

    This isn't discipline, it's a punishment and I've never, ever had a spanking like the one my guardians are planning. And I'm quickly running out of allowed time on GI until I does more chores. (I don't get grounded for a certain time limit, I have to earn the right....no.....the privilege of stuff like being online when I in trouble.)

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    I can understand their concern as not taking your meds can lead to serious complications not just to yoo but to the people around you.

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    Yes, very naughty not taking your meds!  I'm with Jo on that one.

    As for Mom's methods, it's not really my place to tell her how to discipline me.  I may have my own ideas but in the end, she's in charge and if she doesn't want to spank, then she won't.  I'm actually OK with that.  Because while I might really enjoy a hard spanking, I enjoy knowing that I'm not the one who decides even more.  If I just wanted someone to spank me, this might be frustrating, but Mom's in the picture for the whole thing.

    She certainly knows that I want a spanking, but if I've been naughty, she doesn't want to reward me by giving me what I want.  This week, I ate four cookies on Sunday (totally against the rules) and she forbid me from having sweets for the rest of the week.  I'm completely miserable, but really looking forward to having candy tomorrow.  And I'll think twice about eating four cookies again.

     

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    Arg, I'm sorry Laura -- I didn't think through my questions well enough and when I read back my words today I totally see why you answered the way you did, but I really don't mean ta go there.

    I agree we shouldn't be in control cuz we'd get rewarded alla da time fer doing naughty things. Not good. lol I'll have to think and come back with a much better worded comment and much more thoughtful questions.

    I ask questions only to get to know you, Jo, Monica and everybodies better. Sorry for the above, I think I was nervous to admit what I done and I'm still having a bit of brain fog.

    And yes, I know. I know better than most how bad it is to mess up the kinds of medications I take.

    I'll write more later, I gosta nap a bit.

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    No apologies needed!  I wasn't bothered by what you wrote.  Hopefully, my response didn't come off that way.

    For what it's worth, Mom decided I needed a maintenance spanking this morning on account of the holidays and all the parties we're going to.  And I really was not wanting a spanking this morning.  I cried and fussed a lot to be sure!  But Mom knew that if she didn't give me a reminder this morning, I would probably misbehave in public.  So, it's not that she won't give me what I want...she just won't give it to me when I want it.  Rather, she gives it to me when I actually need it.

    I'm feeling very loved today.

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    Then that's yoor need actually met, Laura smiley

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