I love hearing you sweep deeply beside me, when I'm up in the middle
of the night thinking.
I love knowing you're nearby, no matter where, or why.
I love you completely, as you are, I promise.
You don't have to change for that love, just like you make me feel
that I don't have to change, for your love. That's been the most
beautiful thing ever to happen to me, to feel that from you.
If I aspire to change anything, it's only ever because having so much
with you tempts me with simply wanting *more* with you.
So please keep that in mind, when you're being disciplined for
expected and understandable oversights of the structure that's best
for you, which is why I provide it.
Structure and discipline are not criticism, I promise, I don't feel
that way about you -- they're an expression of love, as we've often
depicted them, something that can be a win/win situation...
A win, because striving to do better, even in the little things, is a
noble Human pursuit, even when not successful...
...and a Win because I believe that being spanked and then cuddled
regularly is inherently good for you, a Rite in our belief system, a
thing that should happen regularly, For Your Own Good, and having
that structure, those rules and consequences, gives us a scaffolding
upon which to engineer and support that Rite.
I will continue to give you as much reasonable structure, about things
that're demonstrably good for you, as I'm able.
I *expect* that a child will overlook, forget, or dawdle about some of
I will punish and then cuddle her, when she does -- not because the
oversight is unacceptable, not because the assignment or rule was
meant to correct something wrong in her, but because the consequences
are a special demonstration of Love in our world, and because I WANT
there to be regular, good, non-pretend reasons to spank and then
You recall that, right? We both *want* non-pretend, non-pointless
reasons to weave DD into our life.
So it's part of the *point* of giving my "child" rules and
assignments, that I know she will forget them sometimes, or drag her
feet sometimes -- and will then be lovingly punished.
I expect that, desire that, and am irrationally happy with that -- and
I'll work harder to make sure that the rules and assignments aren't
couched in ways that seem like criticism, Love. Because they aren't.
They're a means to TWO different ends at once, which is pretty
wonderful and miraculous.
[Well, three different ends, counting the end that actually gets
itself paddled. :) ]
I adore you.
--your Daddy, the Polar Bear
(Even after 13 years together, hell ESPECIALLY after 13 years together, the PPP [Pampered and Punished Princess] gets the first bite!!)